Saturday, November 30, 2019

OVER THE YEARS TOGETHER


"ENDEARING YOUNG CHARMS...'


Rose M. Moore randrmoore@gmail.com

Fri, Nov 29, 6:13 PM (14 hours ago)
to me
I was a young girl at St. Mary's School in Painesville when I opened a school book and found the following wonderful poem:

"Believe Me If All Those Endearing Young Charms
which I gaze on so fondly today
were to change by tomorrow and flee from my arms
like fairy gifts fading away,
Thou wouldst still be adored
as this moment thou art,
let thy lovliness fade as it will,
and around the dear ruin each wish of my heart
would entwine itself verdantly still.

"It is not while beauty and youth are thine own
and thy cheek unprofaned by a tear
that the fervor and faith of a soul can be known,
to which time will but make thee more dear.
Oh the heart that has loved never truly forgets,
but as truly lives on to the close;
as the sunflower turns on her God as He sets,
the same look that she gave when He rose."
I, a reader and writer of poems even then, had found this poem in a book on a shelf in the classroom, and Sister Cornelia had found me engrossed in that poem, and she told me it was actually a song. She was the teacher who gathered us all in the church after school every Thursday, to practice our singing for the Children's Choir in the Sunday morning Mass, and she took the time to sing that song for me.
I was stunned by the poem, and even more so when I heard it sung as a song, so I memorized it and sang it quietly to myself quite often. Young as I was, I decided it was the sort of love I would want when I was grown enough to choose my partner in life. I was a romantic, but I was also a realist, and I told Sister Cornelia the concept of finding such love for a lifetime seemed  an impossible miracle. How could two people in a huge world full of all sorts of people actually cross each others' path; let alone realize that person WAS the right person."You never know," she smiled, and we never discussed it again.
IN LATE 1959, on a snow-stormy night, that miracle began to materialize for me when I met a young man named Bob Moore. We fell quickly in love and were married in 1960, in front of family, friends and newspaper colleagues at St. Mary's Church. I hadn't known him for more than a few weeks when I heard him singing that Irish love song in his fine tenor voice, and I asked how he knew it. He had learned it through his high school glee club, and he told me he liked what it stood for. 
As it turned out, we were the finest of partners, and our marriage did last a lifetime. We would sometimes laughingly describe ourselves as "two matched horses happily in harness, forging our way through the world together, raising three children, founding and running a business together... and yes, fully loving each other."
My Bob passed away in the springtime of 2017, a few months short of our 57th anniversary. Right to the end, he would smile across the room at me as if I had never reached that "dear ruin" stage of the Irish song we both loved. Rather he seemed to still see me as the bearer of those "endearing young charms," and he would say so. And I, in turn, would laugh and accuse him of looking at me with "Rose Colored Glasses."
I still miss my Bob; I will always miss him. But a lifetime of memories brightens the darkness of losing him to death. I still feel his presence; the memories stay with me; what more could I ask? It was my impossible miracle, and it would always be with me